I lost by focussing on winning...... As I watched two epic sporting encounters yesterday, the focus on having a single winner pained me. Why? It reminded me of how my limited perspective of winning had cost me. Here's what I lost... I lost friends when..... at 8, I declared I was the 'head' of the kids just because my father was the Managing Director of a company (fortunately we made up) I lost connections.... when during inter-school competitions, it wasn't sufficient to win, the hunger to ground the opposition down reared its ugly head. I lost relationships....when I thought I was unique and special and others had to treat me that way I lost love....when I had to win the battle of the egos! Did the focus on winning also help me? Yes, I am sure it did....but for now, let me stay here.....