WHY BOTHER WITH RELATIONSHIPS?



Relationships.....why do we really get into them? This could apply to romantic ones, or even other social ones? For instance, I found myself what is the purpose of marriage beyond the physical need? "Companionship" is often the answer that comes up. But companionship to what purpose? 

As I find myself more discerning about who I spend my time with, I found myself looking inwards for answers to the same question - what drives me to spend time with a few, while keeping away from others? This morning, I had a wonderful weekly gathering with my 2 fellow travellers - awesome. A little while later, another close friend called and we got talking about others in our lives with whom we no longer find the need to connect with. No ill will, but no real desire to spend time with. Why does this happen? What does 'moving apart' really mean?

I had learnt in my life that relationships are continued based on on going shared experiences. It is for that reason that while one might instantaneously connect with a long lost friend the first time around, but often the second meeting after a long time fall flat. Has this happened to you? It has to me. In my case, I think it is because there are no recent shared experiences to draw upon.

But today, it came home to me a lot clearer. Relationships where we support each other to become better individuals in our own right are the ones that endure. I guess we all know this intuitively, and when I asked my wife about 'why people get into marriages?' she basically had this answer. Awesome if you intuitively know this. But at least in my case, I did not. Further, practising this is where the proverbial rubber hits the road.

So, on the cusp of Women's Day, I send out an affirmation - I am grateful that I am spending increasing amounts of time with the wonderful people who continuously nurture and support me become a better person and am playing the same role in their lives.

What!!! You made it so far????
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  1. aartirathodartandmoreJune 4, 2015 at 10:28 PM

    Sanjay I loved this affirmation. Thanks for writing it so clearly.

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