Tillitonse - A Transformational Journey Together

PLAYING THE BIG GAME A key element of my journey to be more authentic has involved having the courage to be more vulnerable. Recently, I expressed my vulnerability to some one close only to feel ridiculed. Rather than receiving empathy, I felt judged and even ridiculed. Last week, the verdant and rainy drive from Pune to Panchgani provided a great setting for some soul searching. I brought this issue to up with   Syd – an amazing guy who I met barely a year ago, but feel a deep connection.   We spoke on various issues about our lives…. The conversation pasted below is not an exact reproduction. It is however my honest attempt to get to the gist of our chat on this one topic. I wrote it down primarily to process it for myself. If this resonates with you, wonderful….. SANJAY - So tell me, how do you handle rejection when you are being vulnerable but the other simply is not sensitive to it, or worse scoffs at you? SYD (In a laid back manner that ...

"DON'T AIM FOR PERFECTION AND SPOIL IT......" ......Just finished a coaching session with a client who quoted this line. His teacher had said this when he was painting a portrait! But this clearly goes beyond his painting. One of the challenges my clients faces is that he is all too often obsessed with being perfect in all aspects of his life - a report due to his supervisor, what words to use in public, how he should 'show' up to the external world....all driven by this drive for perfection. Unfortunately, all too often two things happen: Either the moment has passed and what he was painstakingly working on is no longer relevant or worse....he actually 'spoils' the end product! Yup, there are indeed times when we ought to pursue and deliver perfection (like while making aerospace components)...but in most areas of our lives, I have found too many of us not willing to just show up...but waiting for that perfect moment/appearance! And yup, th...

After years of studying and then subsequently guiding others based on well document Western Leadership practices, it was such a breath of fresh air to look at another perspective. Was delighted to attend a one day program on Leadership and Collaboration based on age old philosophies and practices co created by Devdutt Patnaik  and Pradeep Chakravarthy a few days ago in Bangalore. Thank you Pradeep for this opportunity. The idyllic setting provided a magnificent nurturing environment for pausing, reflecting, learning and integrating valuable insights about ourselves as we wrapped our head and hears around the four frames that the Devdutt describes so well in his book. The next day, as I was walking the streets of Bangalore, I came across these two dogs....and wham....one very key lesson of the deep dive came truly alive.....I AM I, YOU ARE YOU.... AND WE ARE TOGETHER.... Indeed, in supporting the other lies my growth......The lesson is slowly sinking in......