Tillitonse - A Transformational Journey Together

 Reflections on Question #5 Six questions…  Each morning, I ask myself six questions   I have been cultivating this daily practice for a few months now   Question #5 is “What am I grasping at?” The daily reflections on each of the answers have helped immediately and brought a sense of lightness.   I felt I could benefit from a deeper dive   So, I set aside some time and looked at the pattern of responses over the past few months   Most interesting   Two themes emerged…   First, the desire to be appreciated and validated by others came through persistently. A cherished mentor of mine (David Reene) used to say – ‘We all walk around with an invisible sign around our necks that says – Make me feel relevant, Make me feel wanted.’ This is indeed true for me. I dug it a little more.   It went deeper   There was a seemingly infinite desire to be appreciated that never seemed to run out. It went beyond appreciation. It was about ‘being liked...

  Recall the scene from Star Wars or from the India folklore of Vikram and Betal - the wise one gently whispering words of wisdom and encouragement to the protagonist!  I have my own whisperer!  She went off a few weeks ago across the oceans.  I was asked - Do you miss her? It got me thinking. What do I miss?  It's the learning.   Yup, with her, I have no defences. No false sense of invulnerability. And so her inputs land well. And when one embodies that openness, there is genuine fertile ground to reflect and grow.  I am to create such an environment as a coach.  But this is deeper. An organic connect. Precious!