The Lens We See Through 👓🌏

The Lens We See Through 👓🌏



Yesterday, at a gathering of my social voluntary organization, a senior member gently chastised me for not continuing my leadership role for another year. He emphasized the importance of sustaining efforts over time.

As he spoke, I felt a sense of defensiveness rising within me. My instinct was to justify my actions, to explain why I had chosen to step away. I started to do so...But then, another voice within me nudged me to simply listen instead. So, I did. I just listened.

After a moment, I responded with, “I can see your perspective.” Not “I agree with you,” but “I can see your perspective.”

As the conversation continued, he shared something interesting:

“You know, I’ve been part of one committee for the last 13 years. That’s how I’ve been sustaining my contribution.”

This morning, as I reflected on that conversation, I was reminded of an insight:

🔹 We see the world not as it is, but as we are.

For him, sustained commitment over a long period is likely a deeply held value. That’s what feels right and meaningful to him. So, from his lens, my decision to step away after a year seemed counterproductive.

For me, however, what excites me is new challenges, fresh opportunities, and focused intensity. I thrive in devoting myself fully for a shorter period before moving on to the next meaningful endeavour.

Neither approach is right or wrong. They’re simply different.

🌱 Just because something works for us doesn’t mean it’s the only way.

This moment was a quiet reminder that our perspectives shape the way we see the world. And sometimes, all we need to do is listen. 🎧✨

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