SELF CARE VS SELFISH







Over the past few months, the shocks in the system were getting closer and closer and I was unable to cope....

The repeat ill-health of close members of the family and needing to play the role of the care-giver, a physical ailment that kept me from my regular yoga asana class, the pressure of a final exam and finally the mental churn that has been ongoing through the year took its toll! I became increasingly irritable and unable to focus.

I needed to get away from it all and take the time required to heal - A four part healing process has started:

1.  Surrounding myself with people who made me feel valued and wanted. A day with my coaching buddies in Mumbai and three days helping and participating in the wedding of my two closest spiritual travellers in an ashram setting provided the ideal elixir. I was able to get the nourishment and self-empathy I needed.

2. Jumping right into something that gives me joy - my work. As I re-start my coaching conversations today and prepare for the workshop on Emotional Intelligence to be conducted next week in Tanzania, I can feel the adrenalin kick in.

3. Re-starting my daily practices that include an hour of asanas, gratitude diary, regular affirmations, walk and daily reflection.

4. And finally, planning a two day solitary get away later on this month to pause, reflect, increase self awareness and alignment in order to prepare for the year ahead.

The importance of self-care has indeed become more obvious to me over the past few weeks. Yup, one has to do it even when parts of you cry out "you are being selfish."

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  1. salilDecember 8, 2016 at 5:06 AM

    Brilliant. I am still waiting for your visit to Hyderabad :-)

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