Tillitonse - A Transformational Journey Together

  When Passion Goes Rogue Let me share a story that’s part comedy, part cringe-worthy life lesson, and all about how I let passion turn into petulance. (Spoiler alert: I am not the hero here.) Picture this: For nine months, I’d been leading a project that was going  really  well. We’d hit some big milestones, gotten lots of kudos, and I was feeling like the proud parent of a very successful group baby. So, naturally, I was thrilled when the team agreed to have a celebratory event at a venue I’d recommended. Everything was coming up roses. Then, things shifted. Out of nowhere (or so it seemed), the event started to feel like an afterthought to some of the other stakeholders. Cue my inner dramatic narrator: “How  dare  they?” I began obsessing over what felt like a lack of respect for the project and—let’s be honest—my hard work. This is where things got messy. In my flurry of frustration, I lashed out at one of the stakeholders. And let’s be clear: this person di...

 When One Door Closes As we step into a fresh year, it’s natural to map out grand plans and set ambitious goals. You know, the kind where you confidently imagine everything going smoothly, like a movie montage with upbeat music in the background. But life? Life prefers plot twists. It’s like a scriptwriter who loves drama and keeps forgetting to warn you about rewrites. Take me, for instance. A few months ago, in a group I volunteer with, an important team leader—someone who had just taken on their role—resigned within weeks. Since they reported to me, guess who had to deal with the fallout? Yours truly. My first reaction wasn’t exactly calm or composed. Picture me staring at my to-do list with a mixture of panic and the vague hope that someone else would magically handle it. Spoiler: they didn’t. In desperation, I called a senior member of the team and asked if they’d step in. To my immense relief, they said yes. And within days, it became clear that they were exactly what we ne...

  As I look back on 2024, three dominant themes emerged—each shaping the year in significant ways. Alongside these themes, three additional reflections stood out, all of which I have tried to capture authentically.  1. Navigating A Destructive Emotional Pattern One of the most important themes of 2024 was my effort to manage my emotions, particularly a recurring pattern that has shaped my reactions over the years. Early in the year, I lost my temper lashing out at people close to me. The outburst was exacerbated by having a few drinks. Upon reflection in the weeks and months that followed, I recognized this as part of a deeper pattern—triggered by feeling rejected, undervalued, or treated insensitively in situations that mattered deeply to me. The “volcano” of emotions that erupted during such moments was destructive for me and my relationships with others.  After that incident, I looked within - It was clear to that it up to me to work on this issue without ex...