Big challenges need big shoulders—but not necessarily your own

 Big challenges need big shoulders—but not necessarily your own

One thing I’ve learned (sometimes the hard way) is that when we surround ourselves with people who are strong in areas where we are… let’s say, “under construction,” the results can be transformative.

Take me, for example. Starting things? I’m great at it. Finishing things? Well… let’s just say if life were a relay race, I’d need a really fast anchor runner.

Example 1: Yoga.
When I first began yoga many years ago, I loved the idea of it. But pretty soon, my mat and I fell out of a committed relationship. Left to myself, I would have drifted away. What kept me going was my teacher—and later, a close friend—who kept nudging me back to class. Their persistence built a habit I simply could not have built on my own.

Example 2: Buddhist psychology course.
Fast forward to the last few years. As many of you know, I’ve been studying Applied Buddhist psychology. Twice I signed up for a year-long program. Twice I dropped out. Tried a six-month version. Dropped out again. Apparently, perseverance is not my middle name.

But here’s what changed: this time I joined a small group of four. And one of them was Mr. Diligence himself. Quiet, humble, consistent. While the rest of us scrambled, he was always ahead. And then one day, he announced: “I’ve completed the program. Exam done. Passed.” He even shared his detailed notes. 

That was the kick I needed.  And finally—fifth time lucky—I completed the course and even passed the exam. 🎉

The lesson? If you want to achieve something important, especially in an area you struggle with, don’t just look for inspiration.

Find people who embody the strength you need.

Execution, discipline, patience, creativity—whatever your missing piece is, stand next to someone who’s mastered it. Their example just might carry you across the finish line.

Your turn:
What challenge are you facing right now? What’s holding you back? And who could you invite into your corner to inspire you forward?


P.S. Here’s a short video on this theme that you might enjoy: https://youtu.be/-jhSsfzug1I?si=HP3x28IMxaSGjPH7

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