3. 51/49 not 50/50 - (Bangkok, Banaras, Bihar)

3. LEAD AND FOLLOW – THE BALANCE OF RELATIONSHIPS

My dear friends Divya and Shantanu got engaged in a simple and beautiful ceremony at the Bihar School of Yoga. They have been my fellow travelers for the past four years and it was very special for me to be there for this lovely event.

Sw. Nirajan spoke briefly about relationships. One point struck home – Successful relationships are not those where there is “50/50 but rather when there is 51/49.” 




A 50/50 relationship might lead to two strong egos clashing. Instead, for different areas, it is best that one leads while the other follows. Obviously, the lead has to change depending upon the circumstances. This sounds fairly intuitive, but there was something in this simple point that resonated with me.


Later on as I thought more about this point, I realized that a ballroom dance is a great metaphor for a relationship. Both partners have to be individually expressive yet be in sync and one person has to indeed lead at a given moment. 51/49 at work…. NICE!















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  1. UnknownFebruary 25, 2016 at 1:53 PM

    That is so very cute...coming from a guy who seems to be always in the 40/60 situation - Sanjay you know what I am referring to here!!!! Raghu

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