Quickly Let Go....Lessons from a 12 year old



QUICKLY RELEASE AND TRANSFORM – WHAT A 12 YEAR TAUGHT ME

We are on a family trip and Lata (my wife) and I were discussing whether or not we should take the hot air balloon ride. In addition to the cost, the other barrier was the 3.45am wake up call as we needed to leave the hotel by 4.30am.  Sanjana, our 12 year old, who on an average holiday protests violently if she is stirred before 10am, was all up for getting up. Anyway, after some back and forth mainly between Lata and me, we were coming around to the decision that we would probably not go.

I turned around and when I saw Sanjana’s face, it was VERY evident that she was upset. On enquiry her response was ‘if you had told me that we would not do it upfront, then I would have been okay, but after all this discussion…..” then she started crying. We consoled her and said that one of us, if not both will go…but soon we decided that all three of us would just do it. The crying stopped, tears were wiped off and a few minutes later, she was back to her beaming self.

For those of you who know Sanjana, you know that she does not have tantrums nor is she a demanding kid. All her emotions were genuine. But man, what a lesson in feeling hurt, expressing it and then bouncing back – all in minutes. And I look at myself and think how I would have sulked over something like this for much much longer……

Gratitude for the opportunity to be able to hold a mirror and reflect!

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