I SCREWED UP, BUT IT WAS TIME TO FACE UP….AND THEN WOW!!!!

I SCREWED UP, BUT IT WAS TIME TO FACE UP….AND THEN WOW!!!!





As the year closes out, I made a list of people I had hurt (unintentionally mostly) and reached out to three specific people with unbridled apologies….and almost immediately got a BONUS!!!!! 

First, just acknowledging my screw ups and then writing a letter to each of them took a load off my back. Then after much back and forth, I swallowed my ego and sent these letters. No justifications, no rationalisations…just a simple message  - “My actions caused you hurt for which I am sorry.”

Within 48 hours I had heard from all three – accepting my apology and agreeing that we ought to move on. Can’t tell you how that swoosh of relief felt. AMAZING!

Then, came the amazing bonus…. Out of the blue, I got this note from a friend with whom I had a painful falling out….

“It has been years and likely we all have been better for it.  I do hope someday we can be friendly again. Is 30 minutes of your time too much to hope for? If not, do let me know. I do regret a lot of things.”


WOW! What an awesome reminder that what we receive is based on what we send out.

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