Tillitonse - A Transformational Journey Together

COME FLY WITH ME…. The concepts of ACCEPTANCE TRUST   COURAGE and   SURRENDER have been alive for me recently. But the roots run deep… • I grew up hearing how my father used to jump off airplanes without a reserve parachute during WWII. • I have struggled with the concept of SURRENDER. My conditioned mind often firmly tries to hold on to ‘control’ of situations and people. This lack of ACCEPTANCE often leads to frustrations not just for me but those close as well. • As a coach , I am constantly amazed and humbled by the TRUST and COURGE that many cross the world place in me. Sometimes, I ask myself – “Will I trust another similarly?” So, when the opportunity presented itself a few days go to face my fears, nurture an old desire and trust another, how could I let it pass? The Result? I found myself smiling all through the 900 seconds that I floated and most of the day. A sense of peace pervaded…Hopefully, the impact lingers longer… FLOW ...

SHARE A SHOWER …..OF APPRECIATION My eyes were closed…I felt both anticipation and some nervous energy….Three people gathered around me….then the deluge started ….For the next 300 seconds, I was showered non stop with appreciation,   it started slowly, but soon the energy was infectious and I felt a very nurturing embrace as three souls pointed specific incidents and actions that they appreciated about me…Suffice to say, this was a special moment that happened in 2016 but still is very much alive for all of us who experienced it. Yesterday, two years later, as I facilitated a workshop for a leadership team in Myanmar (Burma), the opportunity to share this experience with another presented itself. What an absolute joy to pass on what one not just but felt deep in the soul!

I USED TO SCOFF.... Like most of us in India, the only time I heard chanting was on religious occasions, mainly in temples. The 'mumbo jumbo' simply did not make sense. In my logical, western oriented family, we even scoffed and looked down on many who did. But in a quiet corner, my mother would silently go about her daily rituals that included simple chanting..... Over the last few years, I found myself increasingly drawn to the power of chanting. So much so that 3 'mantras' have become a morning ritual. It is simply the vibrations that sing to my soul in a way that is hard to logically describe. And now, science, the recent kid on the block is catching up. The data is showing the benefits of chanting through science based empirical research. Oh damn, I can't continue scoffing any more!!! Thanks to my yoga teacher, friend and mentor  Shantanu Saha  for sharing the article below....... ruining it for me!  https://upliftconnect.com/neuroscien...

A wonderful lesson earlier today of the importance of being authentic to one self...... A VP had asked me to coach one of his team members (Let's call him Sam).  We exchanged emails and Sam was eager to begin coaching. We met twice. However, I walked away feeling that there was not a good match between Sam's needs and my offerings. In some ways, I was not even sure if coaching was even needed at this point. However, this was the first time this VP had approached me and I was slightly concerned that I was a) letting the VP down, and b) there was a part of me that did not want to turn this business opportunity away. After some thought, I decided that being authentic was the best option. So, I sent the VP an honest email including my decision. He requested for a chat. We spoke. He went on to appreciate my honesty and we worked on how best we would discuss this issue with Sam. I thought the conversation was ending, when he said "Do you have a few more minutes?"...

TAPPING INTO THE POWER OF EMOTIONS TO ENERGISE US Three days ago, the world saw a tennis legend breakdown in joy when he spoke after winning a major tournament. One could see that he was trying hard to hold back his emotions, but when he realised the enormity of the achievement - “the fairy tale continues” (in his own words), the Energy in Motion (EMotion) could not be held back any longer and they came flowing out like a river does…. Why is this news? Because we have been  socialised to accept that showing emotions in the public is simply not on. And worse, showing emotions at the work-place is certainly a big NO-NO! But we need to remember, that it is our passion that drives us to peak performance…and what else is passion but a strong emotion. And what the heck is wrong in truly feeling and showing this emotion! Indeed, we can tap into the immense power of emotion to push us ahead. Roger Federer did in this very match. He had lost fourth set and worse he knew he w...

JAI HO!!! This morning I came across a short video by Devdutt Patnaik that caught my attention. Here’s what resonated with me. In Sanskrit there are two words for Victory – ‘Jai’ and ‘Vijay.’ ‘Vijay’ refers to victory when someone else is defeated. But ‘Jai’ is superior – It is when one has victory without any actual defeat. And ‘Jai’ mainly refers to the challenge we have in managing our minds – mainly our destructive emotions. Here there is neither a victor nor one who is defeated! As a coach and trainer on Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence, I am constantly struck with the ocean of insights into mind management that lie at the foundation of ancient traditions, particularly those that emanate in the East. And here is yet another simple goldmine – It is in ‘Jai’ that lies our sustained victory and not the ephemeral ‘Vijay.’ And that’s why ‘Jai’ has found repeat mention in our national anthem, in scriptures, in popular songs (‘Jai Ho’) whereas Vijay...

HOW ABOUT STARTING BACKWARDS THIS YEAR? I decided to begin at the end. Suppose my life was close to being over.....what would I be feeling? And then the more important question came up, "What might I want to be feeling?" and then I was reminded of this piece... Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives.: 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. "This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it." 2. I wish I h...